Separation
Separation takes many forms and no matter what form it takes it creates a stressful and at times traumatic situation for all members of the family. During this time of separation, communication with the family may be minimal, usually by phone and letters and if possible short visits. No matter how awkward it may feel - the family at home is moving on with their lives. There are increased responsibilities assumed by the family left behind. Family resources will change and children may have to take on added responsibilities. The stress of separation will disrupt normal family functions.
There are some things to keep in mind in order to effectively deal with separation. You may experience a wide range of emotions: feelings like fear, loneliness, anger, and even grief. They may appear one at a time or a jumble of emotions. For some , the feeling may not appear at all or unexpectedly sneak up on you. You must accept the separation. The sooner you learn to accept the situation the sooner you can prepare to get through it.
Just as there was the stress of being separated there is also the stress of reunion. The entire time your loved one is gone almost all you can think about is how it will be when they return, only to discover that it takes much effort for all family members to get to know one another again.
Reunion or reunification occurs the first few days after the family is back together. Reunification is that period of sheer happiness, celebration, togetherness, sharing, courting all the things it takes to get to know each other again and begin coming together as a family. This occurs during the time before, of and following the actual reunification. Families need to be prepared for some changes in the home when reunification occurs. People will seem changed. Their coping skills as well as yours may have made a shift based upon the environment of which each have recently been exposed. Keep in mind that their environment has not been the same as yours. These differences may cause some stress. If you are prepared for the fact that everything will not be the same and you are ready willing and able to step up to the challenge - with time things will improve.
